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5 Steps to Keeping the Romance Alive After Baby is Born

Having a child is undeniably one of the greatest joys life brings, but it’s also an adjustment.

keeping the romance alive after baby is born

For couples with a new baby, learning to parent, share their home and even their bedroom make up the bulk of their time during the first few months of parenthood. There are more books to read, laundry and chores to do, and there is much less time. Baby needs constant attention. Nights are busy with multiple feedings, and mornings start early, very early. So how do couples adjust to these new demands and still find time to nurture their own bond—sans baby?

Below are five simple steps you and your spouse can take to keep the romance alive, after you have a child.

1. Make a date, and stick to it.

Chances are your schedules were busy before baby was born. Now you’re taking turns working, napping, cleaning, feeding and caring for your little one. This means time spent as a couple is sacrificed. By setting a date to spend some quality time with your partner, you’re instilling a habit, which will have great benefits for both you, your partner and your child. This may start as a simple coffee date down the street on Saturdays in between feedings when your babysitter or relative can stop by. Eventually, when you’re able to leave your child for a couple hours, your date can evolve into dinner or a movie. If you can’t leave your children, plan for a special dinner once a week after they go to bed. Set a beautiful table, and take turns cooking for each other or together. The idea is to make alone time with your partner a regular occurrence, one that is prioritized and doesn’t get bumped aside.

2. Take a romantic stroll during your child’s nap.

Turn your child’s nap time into a romantic walk for you and your partner. The fresh air is good for your child while he is sleeping in the stroller, and you and your partner can enjoy a scenic stroll while having an opportunity to talk. Children sleep much better outdoors, and this can buy you up to two hours with your partner. Make sure the setting is natural so your child is not disturbed by high traffic noises or the lights and sounds of a busy mall.

3. Show your affection, “just because.”

Remember when you used to call each other just to say, “hi?” That doesn’t need to stop. Nor do the love notes or text messages or showing your love, just because. Experiment with doing something loving for your partner once a week. This could be leaving a love note on the bathroom mirror or hiding a favorite treat in your spouse’s coat pocket. These acts of loveand kindness don’t take a lot of effort or time, but they do show your partner you love him and you care.

4. Give your partner the day off.

OK, so a whole day may be out of the question, but surely you can give your partner an afternoon to spend time with his friends or even just to have a nap, while you take care of baby. If your partner is home and you can tell he’s run down, offer to run him a warm bubble bath, and surprise him with champagne and strawberries or a new book. These acts of service show your partner that you consider his time and needs important. More likely than not, he will return the favor.

5. Take five minutes to connect each day.

It’s easy to lose track of what’s going on in your partner’s world outside of the home, when your child is born. Conversations and attention tend to revolve around your children and not your spouse. Take at least five minutes each day to ask your spouse about his day and have him ask about yours. Make a habit of doing this at a time when you can give each other your undivided attention. Really listen without judgment when your partner is talking, and try to put yourself in his shoes. You’ll be surprised at how a little empathy can go along way in keeping you both connected.

Time is precious when you become a parent. Your personal life suddenly seems nonexistent, and often you’re too tired to think of planning anything beyond your child’s next play date. However, making a habit of connecting with your partner on a regular basis can actually lesson the load and make the journey of being a parent much more enjoyable. Not only that, but your children are exposed to parents who are affectionate with each other, happy to be together and very much in love from a young age. This ensures that they have a good foundation and a model to build their own relationships in the future.

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